When the one you love lives far away, it can be difficult to maintain your relationship.
While the old adage says distance makes the heart grow fonder, that's
not always the case. If you want to make you and your sweetheart's
relationship last, you have to work at it. Here are five helpful tips to
keep the passion in your relationship even if you are apart.
1. Befriend Technology: We live in an amazing time
where information flits through space and time in a heartbeat. Use
technology to your advantage! Have a Hangout on Google +, talk on Skype,
FaceTime over your iPhone or just video chat with your partner. Being
able to see each other and read each other's body language will help
keep you bonded and abate miscommunication that can occur when you let
your relationship devolve into mere texting. Follow
Cosmopolitan's
advice and set up a time where there are no distractions, allowing you
and your sweetie to really focus on the conversation - just as if the
two of you were in the same place together.
2. Play Games: , "A little competition is healthy for a long-distance
relationship. It also creates the good type of 'sexual tension' that all
relationships need to survive." Find a game online that you can both
play together, or take Soletti's advice and create your own game. One of
her personal favorites is "the movie game" in which you pick an actor
or actress and go back and forth naming all the movies the star
performed in until one of you gets stuck and can't think of another
film. Many games that are played in person can be played over the phone
or online. Add some fun into the relationship and learn to enjoy one
another's company this way.
3. Surprise Your Sweetie: Sometimes, thoughtful
little things are what count the most; they tell the other person, "Hey,
I'm thinking about you." Send a small care package with your partner's
favorite candy, concert tickets or a spa gift certificate. "Make it
romantic," says clinical psychologist, professor and author
Dr. Ramani Durvasula. "Love letters, sweet texts or little gifts by mail never go out of style and can keep the love alive."
4. Stay Sexy: "Get some sizzlin', smokin'-hot pictures taken," relationship expert and founder of
AskApril.com,
April Masini, suggests. "This gesture is fun and sexy." Don't want to
spend big bucks? Snap some cute pictures of yourself (keep them
classy!), or tell your man about the sexy outfit you're going to wear
when you see him again. Keep your partner fantasizing about you with
this flirty idea.
5. Define Boundaries: Everyone has boundaries,
expectations, and their own opinions of what's okay and what's not. To
keep your partner and yourself on the same page, talk about your
intentions and make sure you both understand each other's needs. Is it
okay to cuddle up next to a friend of the opposite sex while watching
TV, or does that infringe on your partner's idea of monogamy?
Huffington Post
suggests discussing how you define monogamy and laying out what is
acceptable and what is not,
Carrie Krawiec,
aptly explains, "The foundations of any relationship are communication
and the development of shared meaning, goals, roles and rules."